This is a subject I’ve been thinking about quite a lot lately, what do we choose to share with others online and why. Why do I use Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest? How do I blog? What do I get out of it?
I never want to share things online just to try and prove I’m ‘cool’ or to dig for likes. I want to create and share things I love, regardless of their popularity. I don’t want to need others validation to feel good about myself, you know? I don’t ever want to rely on my online world to know what’s right for me. Whatever gets you out of the box excited and fills your head with ideas, whatever you do when no ones around to judge… that’s what I’m interested in, and that’s what I want to share with others.
It’s just so hard, isn’t it? It’s so hard to be honest with yourself, it’s so hard to not care about the reaction. I catch myself trying to stage or post things on Instagram to get other peoples likes all the time, but why!? What do I get out of that?! And then why do we feel a bit sad if no one responds to a post of something we thought was totally awesome? Why can’t we just be confident in our instincts?
I’m learning it’s exhausting to live for anyone else’s approval than your own. In all areas of life, but in the interest of brevity I’ll focus on social media. For instance if I write a blog post while constantly thinking about what others will think and what tone I should use, I’m never totally happy with the end result. It always feels forced and it took me six times longer to write, what the heck?! Anything I’ve ever done and truly liked came out of a really honest place – no editing, no doubts, no what-ifs, no comparisons, just me going with my gut. Just me, trusting myself. That’s the good stuff. That’s the place you want to be in.
Like anything good, it’s easier said than done. I’m no moral compass, I just think it’s an important issue for us to look at, and I’m challenging myself to approach social media and blogging from a more honest place. Yes, blogging is a selective and well curated cross section of our lives, but I never want to fabricate content to get a desired reaction. I want to be honest about my creative processes. I want to show you that ‘Hey, this is how I sewed the corner and look, it didn’t turn out perfect, I’d try this next time’. While I might be embarrassed to show my faults, I think that’s how we learn from others, through both their successes and failures.
I started blogging because I needed somewhere to share the things that made me out of the box ‘Do people know about this?!’ excited. Since my friends and family wouldn’t get much from me yammering on about how cool golden orb spiders are, my outlet is online. I share the things I’m passionate about online because that’s the beauty of the internet, whatever you’re interested in there’s a scattered community around the world that’s interested too. And that passion is the place I want to keep posting from. Thats the gut instinct I want to follow.
I realize this is unlike my normal content and no, I’m not turning my blog into self examination hour. This is simply a tangle of thoughts I felt necessary to share.
And seriously though… these spiders…