FOMO Isn’t What I Thought It Was and Yes, I’ve Got It
I’m not sure of what, exactly.
Nope… No that’s a lie. I’m tired of the disconnect between where I am and where I want to be. I’m tired of the tension between how I feel and how I want to feel.
As it turns out, I’ve got a serious case of FOMO.
FOMO, I’ve realized, isn’t about worrying that you’re at the wrong party on a Friday night. FOMO is about not being happy with what you have and where you are because you’re constantly looking over your shoulder for better.
For a better job, better clients, better friends, better relationships, better hair, a better body, better feelings, better problems, better fears, better dreams.
It’s living where you aren’t.
FOMO is ignoring where you are now. It’s dismissing how you actually feel in favour of how you imagine you should feel. And I’ve got a serious case of it.
One thing I’ve learned over the last few years is that if you hope to change, you have to start with where you are right now. With what you believe and think and feel today. If you don’t acknowledge that you’ll continue living in that disconnect, spinning your wheels.
If you want to change your job situation, your relationship with your family, your finances, your friendships, your health… If you want to change anything you have to start by getting real honest with yourself about where you are today.
Because you can’t solve a problem without acknowledging it exists in the first place.
Taken at the Jonathan Alder showroom in Manhattan a few weeks ago. Fitting, yes?