Yes, You Can
A quick and largely unoriginal New Years thought for you…
I’m not big on New Years resolutions—January 1st doesn’t feel extraordinarily more promising than the start of any other day—but I do like to reflect on the year that’s passed. (Unoriginal already, told ya.)
This little shift in thinking has had the biggest impact on my life recently.
I pay attention to all the things that make me think, “Well I can’t do that.”
“I can’t make videos. I’ll look like a fumbling idiot.”
“I can’t do Crossfit. Have you seen these noodle arms?! Remember when you mentioned it to an Ex and they responded with a crushingly animated eyeroll?”
Instead of letting these thoughts float past and cement in the back of my brain, I catch myself…
What do you mean you can’t? Says who?
Either you want this or you don’t. You’re going to make time for it or you’re not. All perfectly fine options, but using “can’t” as an excuse isn’t.
We all do it.
I can’t join that rec soccer league because I’m not good enough.
I can’t start investing because I don’t have the money.
I can’t do ‘x’ because I’m too young, too old, don’t have the resources…
We collect these cants over time—maybe they came from something a parent or partner said, a bad experience, or other people’s fears. You’d be surprised how young some of these beliefs start.
(Don’t worry, we’re not going to dive into your childhood. That’s between you and a qualified therapist.)
My point is… Awareness is powerful. So is choice.
Those two cants of mine I mentioned earlier? Well, *casually brushes dirt from shoulder*, I recorded my first video tutorial a few months ago—an experience I loved that’s opened up a world I’d previously written off—and I started Crossfit last week.
I might not be the best at either but I show up. That’s all it takes.
It’s cliche advice for a reason.
I (you!) most certainly can.
Photo taken at the Summit of Whistlers Mountain in Jasper, Alberta. I think the whole clouds mountain top thing qualifies as inspirational.
(Originally published on katesmalley.com.)